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Monday, April 23, 2012

Women and Rape - Comments on a CNN Article


This is the link to an article on CNN.com called "Betrayal of Trust? Allegations of Rape at West Point, Annapolis" by Kyra Philips and Jessi Joseph.

 The reason for me blogging on this is because of the comments being posted underneath the article that actually make me want to throw up. Another website (http://www.oneinfourusa.org/statistics.php) states that one in four women in college report having survived a rape or attempted rape since the age of 14. I am a victim of rape, and molestation by my uncle. I know other women who were victims as well. I do not know anyone who was raped or molested who pressed charges.

  That being said, the comments on this article go from women ask for it for drinking to women are lying and cry rape when it never happened out of meanness. Considering that most women do not actually report rape or attempted rape, its highly unlikely that anyone would cry wolf in those circumstances. Do I believe that it doesn't happen, of course not. But why would a successful, high achieving, young woman report rape when she knows (from history, people) that her case will likely be blown up in the media considering where it happened. In fact, this case is hardly unusual. According to the website for the Military Rape Crisis Center states that every four hours a sexual assault or rape is reported to the US military.

  Also, you can read "The Lonely Soldier: The Private War on Women Serving in Iraq" By Helen Benedict, which documents real accounts of women in the military who were raped while serving overseas and how their cases were handled (or not as the case may be).

  With these kind of statistics, the comments I see under the CNN article disgusted me. If you want to read them please feel free to go there. In terms of copyright and such I'm not familiar with, and the fact that I do not want to read what new despicable comments have been posted, I'm not going to degrade my blog (lowly as it is) with them.

  Why did I blog about this? Because I have daughters. Because I was once in the army and they treated me just like everyone else while I was there in line, but once they discovered I had to go because I was pregnant I was a verbal punching bag. Because reaction to trauma such as rape does not equate Borderline Personality Disorder, but may just be shock and fear!

  I do believe that women should be able to serve in any capacity in the military that they choose and feel perfectly safe while doing it. If someone has a problem with it, where is the problem? With the woman who is trying to do her job, or the one who makes it a problem in the first place? Soldier is not a female or male world, it is gender neutral!

  We are making progress in this country, but the patriarchal threads that still bind and suffocate this country disgust me, and I hope that every article, every rapist who goes to jail, ever lawsuit, every man and woman who speak up to say "Women are not less then men!" breaks another thread!

  So I raise my bottle of water to every woman who has been raped and reported it and especially to those ladies who are all over the news now, Karley Marquet and Annie Kendzior. May you find peace, love and hope. You have been heard!

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Attack on Facebook

Everyone is basically on Facebook, right? This is likely true. It helps you get in touch and stay in touch with old friends who may or may not live far away, right? Again, probably true. But does it really foster a sincere sense of community? I honestly believe that for weeks my friends will post (and this includes me) but very few people actually check out the posts and comment or do more then "like". For me, with all the craziness going on in my life, Facebook has not helped. No one calls me or drops by to check up on me.

  I actually do know that everyone has stress, that there is craziness in everyone's life. But there is a level that my life has gone beyond in which it would just be nice if people would circle the wagons and give me and mine support. Seriously.

  I have thryoid cancer that may or may not have spread to my kidney, I have to keep having ct scans to check it and the situation will be evaluated. Don't you just love having a life or death issue hanging over your head?

  My husband has 4 herniated discs, panic attacks, and is having gastric surgery on April 27th. So you can imagine how much fun that all is right now, right?

  My daughter Lizzie, who is four, is actually having panic attacks when I have to go to work.

  My youngest daughter Abby, who is 7 months old, was sick with fevers last week, though luckily that has resolved. At her wellness check yesterday the doctor expressed concern over her rapid head growth so she is going to be checked for hydrocephalus, which is spinal fluid on the brain. This means an ultrasound on Thursday.

This is my plate right now. My daughters are awesome, my husband is trying, but we're all either sick or stressed to the max and we have no break coming. It's like we're stuck in a tornado spinning around and around with bad news coming over and over.

My life may not be this:

But damn it why can't it be this for just a few weeks for once?

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

"Scary Mommy" and other matters

Okies so a couple of things, I'm about 39% through reading "Confessions of a Scary Mommy" by Jill Smokler (here is the link to her website: http://www.scarymommy.com/) and I feel relieved. Relieved that I'm not the only batshit crazy mom in the world who is not the picture perfect mom that society thinks we should be. We have emotions, we are individuals, and damn it we need a damn nap.
 That's me singing on the inside with my alternate, perfect personality. Meow.

If you have some money, read the book. The snippets at the beginning of each chapter alternately horrify and crack me up, so yes, I'm getting weird looks (yet again!) as I walk around my workplace, kindle in hand, laughing out loud. It's kind of like smiling at a complete stranger (why is she doing this, is she sane, will she flip out?) hehe.

  On other notes, today I submitted part of one of my novels in progress to Paper Lantern Lit (http://www.paperlanternlit.wordpress.com/). So though the few friends I have allowed to read my writing have responding positively and want to read more, I'm petrified that I will never hear. Yes I said it, I'm petrified of having my writing rejected... Ahh well, my harpy will continue to be written no matter if the world does not meet her ;).

The above picture was taken in January.. Abby (the bald one) is getting bigger (yes I promise to add more pictures from now on, makes my writing more real probably, and readable.
  Either way, EVERYONE in the house is sick. The hubby's back went out again, Lizzie threw up yesterday and is at the doctors as we speak getting checked out, but mostly to get a doctors note (a $20 dollar doctors note lol), so that we can keep her home from school and she can rest. Abby is sick too. Have you EVER heard of a baby losing their voice? Well, you have now. And yes, yes I'm having them sleep with a humidifier, but it's not a magic wand that keeps them from getting sick.

  This Friday is a full moon and I've decided to take my freaky skills at making charms to the next level and make a few this friday to sell. Need some supplies though, perhaps I'll try and find nettle in the backyards around my house, and try not to get arrested. A little bit of cooking and no more stingy.

  Well, here's to another week, be well! Be real! Most of all be sarcastic!!!